21 Gems for Persuasive Writers

I hope you’re enjoying this week’s issues of The Writer’s Life, edited by yours truly, Katie Yeakle.

Yesterday I touched on some of the many benefits that are automatically yours as an AWAI member.

Today, I’d like to do something a bit out of the ordinary …

I’d like to share with you part of a memo I sent to the AWAI team a few years back. I had just re-read Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People and was inspired by the power, honesty and simplicity of his message.

The reason I’d like you to read it is because it speaks to how all of us here at AWAI feel about you and what you can accomplish.

Plus, there are some great lessons here for all persuasive writers!

FROM: Katie
RE: Lessons from How to Win Friends and Influence People

Dale reinforces the importance of what he’s teaching and the impact it can have on your life … all the while pointing out that your success is ultimately up to you. An example:

“If you want to get real, lasting benefit out of this book, don’t imagine that skimming through it once will suffice. After reading it thoroughly, you ought to spend a few hours reviewing it every month. Keep it on your desk in front of you every day. Glance at it often. Keep constantly impressing yourself with the rich possibilities for improvement that still lie in the offing.”

He’s clear about the fact that there’s work involved … but the work is worthwhile … and the results are worth it. Two examples:

“Remember that the use of these principles can be made habitual only by a constant and vigorous campaign of review and application. There is no other way.”

“Learning is an active process. We learn by doing. So, if you desire to master the principles you are studying in this book, do something about them. Apply these rules at every opportunity. If you don’t, you will forget them quickly. Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind.”

“You are attempting to form new habits. Ah yes, you are attempting a new way of life. That will require time and persistence and daily application.”

In an added chapter at the end, Lowell Thomas says: “Dale Carnegie would tell you that he made a living all these years, not by teaching public speaking – that was incidental. His main job was to help people conquer their fears and develop courage.”

That’s our main job too. Plus, I would add … introducing people to opportunities to live richer lives.

A few of Dale’s ideas that we can incorporate in our programs and our dealings with our members and each other:

  1. “There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything … And that is by making the other person want to do it.”
  2. “ … the deepest urge in human nature is ‘the desire to be important’ … ‘the craving to be appreciated.’”
  3. “I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people,” said Charles Schwab, “the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.”
  4. “Try leaving a friendly trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips.”
  5. “ … the only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.”
  6. Quoting Henry Ford: “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”
  7. Quoting a performer: “I am grateful because these people come to see me. They make it possible for me to make my living in a very agreeable way. I’m going to give them the very best I possibly can.”
  8. “If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people – things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.”
  9. Chinese proverb: “A man without a smiling face must not open shop.”
  10. “Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds. Especially when that someone is under pressure from his bosses, his customers, his teachers, parents or children, a smile can help him realize that all is not hopeless … that there is joy in the world.”
  11. It’s all about listening to the other person.
  12. “The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely.”
  13. Advice Dale received after correcting someone publicly at a dinner party: “Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save his face? He didn’t ask for your opinion. He didn’t want it. Why argue with him? Always avoid the acute angle.”
  14. “Nine times out of ten, an argument ends with each of the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right.”
  15. “Suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph. And – a man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.”
  16. “In talking with other people, don’t begin by discussing the things on which you differ. Begin by emphasizing – and keep on emphasizing – the things on which you agree. Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.”
  17. Appeal to nobler motives.
  18. Merely stating a truth isn’t enough. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic.
  19. Quoting Charles Schwab: people get things done because they want to excel. “The desire to excel! The challenge! Throwing down the gauntlet! An infallible way of appealing to people of spirit.”
  20. “That is what every successful person loves: the game. The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his or her worth, to excel, to win.”
  21. “Be liberal with your encouragement, make the thing seem easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he has an undeveloped flair for it – and he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel.”

There are many more gems in this little book.

For now, let’s think about how we can apply the above to improve our members’ experiences with AWAI.

Next time you sit down to write anything … a sales letter, a business memo, a note to a friend … I hope you’ll keep Dale’s advice in mind. It’s the core of persuasive writing, which is the surest path to the writer’s life.

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Published: March 30, 2011

2 Responses to “21 Gems for Persuasive Writers”

  1. Katie:
    fThe book you briefed today "How To Win Friends ----" by Dale Carnegie is my favorite of all self imnprovement books except the Bible.
    I first read this book when I was 10 years old, believe it or not. It had a profound affect on me even then and it still does. Since then I have only re-ead it once during these past 74 years. But at 84 I will begin immediately and re-ead it again thanks to your article.

    I am going to make a succes of this bopywriting business if it is the last thing I do and it may very wellbe. I feel a warm urge within me towards this endeavor tellingme to "just do it". I am trying to listen to that source very closely.
    Peace and Blessings Katie and thank again for your perception.


  2. Hi,

    As an Aussie I hate "have a good day", it means nothing. Is as though you don't have much of a chance. Very Passive. Out of your control. Too off-hand. Automatic

    But just changing one word

    "Make it a great day"

    means do something! Be active!
    Make it happen! Bring a smile to your face/attitude. Be positive about doing something. Its not a "lazy" response. Instil some purpose into someone's life. Don't just lie there and let them drive overyou. Make them accelerate, or change down a gear, to add more power to your engine. Make a difference!


    Make it a great day


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