Do People Like You?
I was 16 years old.
And I was dreading the upcoming hockey season.
Not a usual situation for a Canadian teenager.
It was because of one particular guy, a loud-mouthed "tough" guy, who had a knack for making you fear him.
Playing on the same team as him in previous years had proved to be very distasteful. Plus, his mere presence in the dressing room had a way of zapping all of the fun out of any situation.
“Terence” played goal. He wasn’t bad. And because the other goalies trying out weren't that good, it was pretty much a sure thing that'd he'd be our starting goalie.
Then something great happened.
Our coach, sensing the damage to team chemistry that Terence was inflicting, cut him from the team.
During the year, we had our goaltending challenges, but we were cohesive as a team. And despite being a little weak in net, we had visions of winning the league championship.
Then the playoffs arrived. I still remember how deflated I felt when, thanks to some really weak goals let in by our goaltender, we were eliminated.
After our loss, it was impossible not to think about what would have happened had Terence been in net.
But the question was really not worth asking.
Because with Terence on the team, all of the fun would have been zapped out of hockey that year. And if you have a team filled with guys who are unhappy, chances are you're not going to go very far in the playoffs anyway.
Successful people know that everything they do in life depends on other people. Whether you're playing a sport or advancing in your freelance career – every goal, every milestone you reach, involves successful interaction with others. And it goes beyond “getting along” with others.
Take the 36th president of the United States, Lyndon Baines Johnson (LBJ). He knew how to get people to like him. So much so that he developed ten extremely powerful rules I'd like to share with you today (courtesy of David J. Schwartz's book The Magic of Thinking Big).
Here are LBJ's 10 rules:
- Learn to remember names. This simple act of courtesy works wonders.
- Be a relaxed person so there is no stress in being around you. Be as comfortable as an old shoe.
- Be easygoing so that things do not ruffle you.
- Don't be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.
- Be interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.
- Study to get the "scratchy" elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
- Sincerely attempt to heal, honestly, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Let go of your grievances.
- Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
- Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulations upon anyone's achievements, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
- Give spiritual strength to people, and they will have genuine affection for you.
Using these 10 rules, Johnson was successful when it came to gaining the support of Congress. Under his presidency, The Voting Rights Act of 1965 and The Civil Rights Acts of 1965 and 1968 were passed. Plus, of course, he convinced the American people to elect him president.
And as a freelancer seeking new business, the same "likeability" rules apply. Do you have any successful guidelines for cementing good relationships with clients? Share with me by posting a comment below.
Just like politicians, it's important for businesses that their prospects like them. And as a writer, if you can help them with that goal, they'll pay you big dollars.
Social media is the perfect channel. If you're interested in helping companies raise awareness of their brand and convince their prospects and customers that they are likable, you'll want to invest in Nick Usborne's program, How to Make Money as a Social Media Expert.
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As for Terence, I have no idea where or what he is doing today. But I can say without reservation, I hope he never adds me as a Facebook friend.
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