The Top 5 Regrets People Have on Their Deathbeds
Hi folks, Mindy Tyson McHorse here. I’m thrilled to be taking over The Writer’s Life this week.
I’ve got a somewhat unusual series of essays planned for this week. Instead of new beginnings, I want to talk to you about the end. About death.
Even bolder than that, I’ll explain how you can outsmart death – sort of. My plan is to show you how to live a life of such fantastic satisfaction that death won’t ever scare you again.
It’s a timely topic since your neighborhood is due to fill with ghosts and goblins tonight. From goofy skeletons and friendly trolls to Death Eaters and Grim Reapers, they’ll haunt the streets and make strange noises. Then they’ll parade right up to your door and ask for candy.
Aside from Halloween fun, death is rarely a comfortable subject or welcome topic of conversation. A lot of us are flat-out afraid to talk about it, which is the case with most things that scare us.
Why is it scary?
Probably because the thought of not doing everything you want in your lifetime is terrifying … I know it is for me.
Plus, the thought of not knowing what happens next can be overwhelming. It’s a fact: fear of the unknown makes people uncomfortable.
That’s why, this week, I’m going to walk you through the top five regrets people make on their deathbeds.
Then I’ll show you how to avoid them.
Here’s the first one:
“I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
Just about every freelance writer I know has faced this dilemma.
We all grow up with expectations placed on us: Find a stable job. Get a steady paycheck. Do something respectable.
Some of it comes from family members. Some of these expectations we place on ourselves.
Jobs that fit the mold are things like teacher, doctor, auto mechanic, banker, fireman, business owner, etc. They’re professions people understand. Safe paths, well-traveled.
“Freelance writer” doesn’t fit that bill … or at least, that’s most people’s first impression.
The plain truth is that most folks don’t know a lot about freelance writing. That makes it scary to them.
They don’t realize it’s a bona fide occupation that supports families, pays mortgages, and funds retirement accounts. They don’t “get” how this is possible if you work from home without the things “real jobs” require, like an ID badge or a timesheet.
If you dream of the writer’s life, avoiding that first deathbed regret means being brave enough to not live an average life.
It means courageously stepping out of line to say, “Hey … I can do this.”
It means putting aside your initial fear of the unknown so you can really live before you die.
Although, let’s face it … that’s easier said than done.
I’ve thought a lot about how I got to where I am now (six-figure freelance copywriter) from where I was (crabby manager with hyper-controlling boss).
It’s not because I’m fearless. I’ve actually never been the “plucky” type that swims upstream.
The only reason I got to where I am now is because I’ve always gotten priceless assistance from Circle of Success. It’s how I get the motivation to keep on going. It’s where I learn the tricks that keep me current. And it’s how I made friends with a network of fellow freelancers who keep me afloat with their support and mentorship.
What are your “deathbed fears”? How do you plan to live a life true to yourself? Please comment below.
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