How to Break Free and Live the Life of
Are you living the life you want?
If your answer was anything but a resounding “Yes!” then I’d like to share a few tips that could help you break free of what’s holding you back … and put you on the path to leading a richer, more rewarding (and exciting!) life.
More than 150 years ago, Henry David Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Unfortunately, his observation is just as true today as it was back then. Why is that?
I think it’s because most people let fear “jail” them. They’re afraid to be uncomfortable and do things that are in the realm of the “unknown.”
As a result, they settle for wherever they’re at, even if it’s not where they truly want to be.
They’d rather stay with what’s familiar or comfortable because it’s not that bad.
Don’t let that be you.
Here are five action steps you can use to break free and get on the path to living the life of your dreams. (These are the same steps I’m currently taking to take my life in the direction I want it to go.)
1. Get honest with yourself
The first step to any change is awareness. You need to become aware that there’s a gap between where you are now and where you’d like to be. Ask yourself the following questions: “If I could start my life over, who would I be? What would I be doing? What would my life look like? What would I like my life to look like now?” Now pick one area of your life that you’d like to change – one that’s been nagging at you for years now and would make you ecstatic to see change for the better.
2. Find the reasons you haven’t changed
Once you’re clear on what you’d like your life to look like, it’s time to figure out why you aren’t living it. While there are some things you can’t change (like who your parents are, how you grew up, your age, etc.), practically everything else in your life is under your control. So ask yourself why you aren’t yet living the life you want. Have you procrastinated? Been lazy? Too busy? Remember to be totally honest with yourself!
3. Dispel the limiting beliefs
Now that you know the reasons why you haven’t taken action in the past, it’s time to let go of those limiting beliefs. For example, if you just haven’t had the time, examine that belief. Have you been truly SO busy that you couldn’t devote just 15 minutes a day to taking one action that could move your life forward? Ultimately, you’ll find that these reasons are just excuses and limiting beliefs in disguise. As you become aware of this, you’ll be able to lessen their hold on you.
4. Write down the next action you’ll take
By now, you’ve identified the area of your life you’d like to improve. You’ve found the reasons why you haven’t changed things yet, and you’ve gotten rid of those excuses. Now it’s time to write down at least one action step you’ll take to move that part of your life forward – once and for all. Make sure you’re as specific as possible.
For example, if you want to lose 10 pounds, you could write down: “Starting tomorrow, I will research personal trainers in my area for 15 minutes. Then I’ll find three I like and meet with each one. Afterwards, I’ll decide on the one I like and hire them.” You get the idea. Just make sure you actually schedule in the action you’ll be taking. Make it a sacred appointment you can’t miss – just as you would with a doctor’s appointment or a meeting with your boss.
5. Face the fear of uncertainty and take action
At this point, all that’s left is to take the action. If you’re hesitant to act, realize that it’s just fear talking to you. It’s normal to feel fear at this stage, and so long as you keep growing, it never goes away. Accept this, and take action anyway.
The best way to deal with fear is to develop a belief in yourself that you can handle anything that comes your way. If you know in your heart that you can handle any situation, then the uncertainty of change and growth won’t scare you.
This article is just as much for me as it is for you. I’m still working on moving towards a better life and using these five steps on a regular basis.
And believe me, it’s definitely worth the effort.
Every time you use this process, you’ll gain confidence in yourself and your ability to create and have the things you really want in your life.
Remember – you always have a choice. You CAN move past the fear that’s stopped you in your tracks, eliminate the negative self-talk, and banish the worry. And when you do so by taking action, you’ll emerge on the other side of an amazing, rich, and rewarding life you’re eager and excited to face each day.
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