How Can They Help When They Don’t Know?

Jen Adams here, back to show you another easy way to grow your relationships and bring more opportunities into your life.

Yesterday, I talked about the magic that happens when you let people know what you do.

They start bringing you opportunities. All kinds of opportunities.

Some will be right up your alley. Others, not so much. And that’s okay – these extra opportunities are ones you can pass on to other writers you know.

But, how do you get more of the right opportunities coming your way?

Now, I realize this is going to seem too easy – and I was certainly skeptical when I first started trying it. Yet, I’ve seen it work over and over again – more than enough times to be convinced …

Just tell others exactly what you need.

Too simple, right? Except, publicly asking for what I needed is how I’ve found dozens of new writing opportunities over the years, including some that have been life-changing.

For example, a conversation about my career with AWAI member Sean McCool at the 2012 Bootcamp led to an introduction to my future boss, when I first went in-house. It sent me in a whole new direction – I can’t thank him enough – and it wouldn’t have happened if I’d been quiet about my needs.

Nor would I have found my go-to transcriptionist … several great graphic designers … or even the other networking stories I’m sharing this week.

So, for today’s action step, I’d like you to think of a few of the things you need in your writing life at the moment. Frame them in the form of a simple ask, and be as specific as possible:

  • I’m looking for an accountability partner to help me finish my first AWAI program.
  • I need help with my website. Know anyone with Wordpress experience?
  • I’d like to find more blogging opportunities in the pet niche. Anyone know any vets or pet store owners?
  • Looking to lock down my first newsletter project in the next few weeks. Which small service firms in our area could use a better newsletter?

Once you have your requests ready … start asking! Post your needs on Facebook, LinkedIn, or in your Twitter account. Work them into conversations.

I’ve received amazing responses in as little as a few hours, while other “asks” have taken several days to bear fruit. Either way, you’ve got your personal universe tuned into your needs, and you may be very pleasantly surprised at what happens next.

Share the results of your asks in the comments. And tomorrow, I’ll show you how returning the favor – or doing a favor of your own – can help boost the power of your relationships and bring even more new opportunities your way.

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Published: May 27, 2014

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